Less Than

Have you ever been made to feel less than… It can be an isolating feeling. But don’t buy into it. You’re not less than.

Has anyone ever made you feel like you were less than?

Less than them…

Less than perfect…

Less than worthy…

Less than lovable…

Less than human…

I have.

It is insane how low one person’s careless words can drag you. Maybe they just didn’t think before they spoke… Or even worse, maybe they thought very carefully about how to break you down. Some people are just careless, and some can be cruel. Some people don’t realize the harm they have done, while others are trying to place you under their foot.

Words can be a dangerous weapon.

If there is someone who does not have any redeeming aspect to your life, it is okay to cut them out.

We need to prune unhealthy and abusive relationships out of our lives sometimes, for both people’s sake. Everyone has good and bad in them, but if you bring out the worst in someone, or they bring out the worst in you, if there is no chance of it ever becoming a healthy relationship, part ways.

We all go through seasons in life. Seasons of growth, seasons of withering, seasons of pruning…

All of these seasons serve a purpose. However, if you stay in one season for too long, it can become destructive. You have to be able to tell when it is time for you to cut chords and move on. It can be bitter sweet, and painful, but that is life. In order to keep growing and moving forward you have to know when it is time to turn the page and start a new chapter.

Its okay.

Its okay to cry.

Its okay to still miss someone even though they hurt you.

Its okay to still love them.

Its okay to mourn the loss of an abusive relationship.

BUT

It’s not okay to keep letting someone abuse you. Not mentally, not emotionally, not physically…

It’s not okay to make excuses for them and to let them get away with abusive behavior because you love them.

It’s not okay to keep going back, when things never change.

Change is painful. It takes hard immalleable tools to sharpen. In the end, when the change is complete, you’ll be stronger, but it wont change the fact that the sharpening, the growing process, hurts. You might be bitter toward the tool that sharpened you. You might be traumatized. You might need to talk about it. You might need to cry about it. You might need time to recover. That’s OKAY!

If you need help, ask for it. Get it. But don’t let the feeling of not being able to do this alone prevent you from doing it. You don’t have to walk this alone. You just don’t. You may feel alone and isolated, but that is just a feeling. The truth is, you are SO far from being alone.

The important thing is, if you recognize that you are in an unhealthy relationship, if someone is making you feel like you are less than, you get out. Because, and I want you to really hear this, THEY ARE WRONG!

You are lovely.

You are lovable.

You are worthy.

You are human.

You are a beautiful creation, and you were made on purpose with a purpose. If someone is holding you back from that, walk around that road block and keep moving. Don’t waste time looking back, because your future is bright. Without that stone wrapped around your ankles, you are going to be able to do great things. Don’t be afraid to move forward. Be brave. Be courageous. Step out in faith, and move forward.

Because you are capable.

You are sufficient.

You are incredible.

I know it is easier said than done, and these situations are easily made complicated. But be smart, dear, and do what you know needs to be done. I am praying for you, because I’ve been there, and I believe prayer works. I may not be able to wrap you up in a hug, but I can wrap you up in prayer, and the Lord can hold you and walk with you through this. Be strong. Know your worth. You are life. That is precious. You are precious. Act like it.

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